Let's face it, millennials: we're the generation raised on "participation trophies" and the pressure to be constantly #winning. We've been conditioned to FOMO (fear of missing out) like it's oxygen. But what if there's a better way? Enter JOMO, the lesser-known but way more chill cousin of FOMO – the joy of missing out.
In our hyper-connected world, it's easy to fall victim to FOMO, the fear of missing out. We're bombarded with social media posts showcasing seemingly perfect lives, trendy events, and exotic vacations. This constant comparison can lead to mental health issues, unhealthy behaviors, and reduced life satisfaction. But what if missing out was one key to happiness?
The Joy of Missing Out, or JOMO, is a conscious decision to prioritize your well-being and happiness over the pressure to keep up with the latest trends. JOMO isn't about becoming a social hermit. It's about giving yourself permission to prioritize your well-being and happiness. It's about saying "no" to that extra weekend trip that drains your bank account, or skipping the crowded bar crawl to catch up on that sleep you desperately need. JOMO might mean skipping a crowded party to enjoy a relaxing night in with a good book and a cup of tea. It could also mean deleting social media because of the pressure you feel to compare. It's about embracing the present moment, being content with your choices, and finding fulfillment in the simple things.
But, I would like you to think of it more as a byproduct of living a mindful life. It takes work. It takes time and patience, but it is worth it.
Actionable Steps to Take:
Disconnect to reconnect:Â Take breaks from social media, news, and other online sites. Take control of your feed. Unfollow accounts that make you feel inadequate or pressured. Give yourself permission to be bored and unplug from the constant stream of updates. This allows you to reconnect with yourself, your hobbies, and the people who matter most.
Embrace self-care:Â JOMO prioritizes activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul. Maybe it's reading a book, taking a relaxing bath, spending time in nature, or pursuing a creative outlet.
Set boundaries:Â Don't be afraid to say no to invitations that don't resonate with you. It's okay to decline events that drain your energy or don't align with your values.
Practice gratitude:Â Shift your focus from what you lack to what you have. Appreciate the small joys in life, the meaningful connections you share, and the unique experiences that make your life special.
Live in the now:Â Savor the present moment instead of dwelling on the past or obsessing about the future. Be fully present with the people you're with and the activities you're doing.
While research on digital disconnection's impact on well-being is ongoing, mindfulness practices have shown consistent benefits. Studies indicate they can alter your thinking patterns, reduce stress, enhance emotional regulation, and improve self-awareness. I have included a few studies below.
To wrap up, the next time you feel the pangs of FOMO creeping in, remember the power of JOMO. Disconnect, recharge, and rediscover the joy of being present in your own life.
https://pure.rug.nl/ws/portalfiles/portal/793337725/Cognitive_benefits_of_mindfulness_meditation.pdf